Emotions are a huge part of life, and all of us have a balance of positive and negative emotions. Having these emotions can not only impact us, but they can also impact the people and the surrounding environment. Some emotions are felt by engaging with friends, family, or basically anybody. We might feel happy when people compliment us, and do kind things for us, and we might feel upset if someone insults us or does mean things. Kindness is something that can influence people to have positive reactions, because being kind is seen as a good thing. People can be kind for many reasons, and really, it just depends on the person. However, according to recent researches, scientists found out that being kind is a natural part of life, with numerous explications. A long time ago people used to think that we were only kind so that we could deceive people, and become more successful, but recently we have proved that there are selfish and selfless reasons to be kind, as it is a huge aspect in our lives. But why exactly are people kind, and what motivates them to do so?
Being kind can bring a smile to another person’s face, and this can actually make us feel happier too. Not only that, but it is also good for our health. Shocking, right? “Kindness triggers the production of oxytocin, which is known as a “cardio-protective” hormone because it indirectly triggers the expansion of blood vessels, lowering blood pressure and enhancing heart health.”, states a news article. This proves that being kind not only improves our mood, it is also good for our health. Being kind makes us feel happier, because we have that sense of pride when we have made someone happy. It is proven that when we see an emotion being expressed on someone else’s face, our minds actually process this emotion, and it may impact our own emotions. Sometimes, we are kind without realizing it, and right after, we might feel an improvement in our mood. This doesn’t necessarily mean that we are being selfish, regardless of many beliefs. We are kind to others, and it puts us in a better mood. This is kind of like Karma. We do a nice gesture, so we receive a good mood in return. Being kind is never an obligation, it is a choice, but choosing to do so guarantees us an advantage.
Just like I previously said, being kind is a choice, but this choice can help us grow closer to our friends. Most people don’t like to be friends with mean, commanding, and toxic people, so when we’re kind, people have a better impression of us. For example, in a job interview, if we show up and have no respect for the interviewer, there’s a much lower chance that we will get the job. Like many wise people have said, it’s about the personality, not the looks. Being kind is a huge part of our personality, and that is what we are usually judged on. Our friends may feel more comfortable around us when we express kindness to them, showing that we are welcoming them. Although this is not the only way a friendship can be developed, kindness and mutual respect are essential in friendships, so without these aspects, friendships are bound to grow weaker. This not only motivates people to be kind, it also pushes people to improve their attitude. Just judging on a friend’s comfort level with us is enough to know if we are kind to them, and if we’re not, then we already know that this is something to improve on.
Labels are not only put on objects, they are also put on people. This means that when someone is very kind, they are known as a kind person. People around them will title, or label them as kind, and this opens up many new opportunities for them. Just like when teachers are writing their students’ report cards, they will surely add in that a student is kind and helping, if they are nice and useful to the class every day. However, people can have many bad experiences with others, and can label them as mean, manipulative, or toxic, which are not good labels to have, which actually puts these people at a disadvantage. People will recognize when others are kind, so if everyone around us realizes that we are optimistic, persevering, and have good personality traits, they will tell this to people around them, which gives us a good reputation. Again, this may seem selfish, but this is what modern society has normalized. People who are known as mean will be cast out, and kind people will fit right in. We shouldn’t feel bad for being kind to people so that they can trust us, we should actually be motivated by this in order to keep a good attitude.
It is our choice of what kind of person we want to be, but being kind clearly has many advantages. The advantages of being kind far outweighs the disadvantages. Clearly, it is good for us just as much as it is good for other people. Being kind is not an obligation, but we should still do it to keep the environment around us a non-toxic place. Imagine how many people we would be hurting if we weren’t kind. Of course, we don’t have to be kind every single moment of the day, and it is not unforgivable if we are mean. Being kind to people is often a form of apology, and is actually a great way to make up with someone, especially after a big fight. Scientists have found out that there are 5 main reasons why people are kind, but if we do not relate to any of these reasons, it is completely fine. We shouldn’t be pressured to be kind, because usually, it comes naturally. Kindness is a form of friendship, happiness, and love, so if we want to have these things in life, we can have them with simple kind gestures. Being kind can be expressed in many ways, like waving to a classmate in the hall, or saying “Good morning!”, to family members or teachers.
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